Abandonment
Although a great deal of parental abandonment is unintentional or
a result of inadequacies or selfishness on their part, some abandonment is intentional. Downplaying a child’s success or saying something
negative about him to someone who has just complimented him can
be a way of intentionally hurting his feelings.
Children who are routinely abandoned or rejected, whether intentionally or not, tend to suffer from
extreme insecurity and feelings of worthlessness. They often become
very upset when their parents leave to go somewhere, convinced that
their parents will never return. This insecurity and fear often continues into adulthood, resulting in insecure adults who are clingy with
their adult partners or who are afraid to be alone.
Abandonment creates insecurity, self-obsession, and the tendency
to turn anger against oneself and to idealize others. These feelings fester beneath the surface, where they interfere with self-image and the
forming of healthy relationships. Adults who have been abandoned as
children tend to lack the confidence to reach their true potential.
Culled from Healing your emotional self by Beverly Engel
Abdulkareem,Taoheedah kehinde
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