Inner critics
PEOPLE WHO WERE EMOTIONALLY ABUSED or neglected in childhood
tend to have much in common, including a tendency to continually
evaluate themselves, judge themselves harshly, and set unreasonable
expectations and standards for themselves. Unfortunately, even
though these tendencies may be a direct result of how your parents
treated you, they don’t go away just because you have successfully separated from your parents. These tendencies can hang on, a regretful
legacy of the childhood abuse or neglect you experienced.
People who have been neglected or abused do not have a reasonable inner critic (also known as the superego or the judge). Everyone
has a critical inner voice, but people who were emotionally abused or
neglected tend to have a more vicious and vocal inner critic. Theirs is a
pervasive yet often invisible presence in their lives.Your inner critic or judge not only evaluates you according to its
own standards, it also constantly compares you with other people.
Culled from Healing your emotional self by Beverly Engel
Abdulkareem,Taoheedah kehinde
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