Needs
One way of discovering what your needs are at any given time is to
check in with your feelings. They will tell you what you need if you pay
close attention.
Because survivors of emotional abuse or neglect are often disconnected or numb to their feelings, you probably do not know what your needs actually are at any
given time. You may not feed yourself when your body needs fuel,
because you are numb to the feelings of hunger. You may not allow
yourself to cry or to seek out someone to talk to, because you do not
know when you are feeling sad or lonely.
When you find yourself in a distressful situation, instead of
allowing yourself to become overly fearful or to obsess anxiously over
what could or could not happen, talk to yourself in a calm, nurturing
way (you can do this silently, inside your head, or, if you are alone, you
can talk out loud.
Culled from Healing your emotional self by Beverly Engel
Abdulkareem,Taoheedah kehinde
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