Perfection(Healing your emotional self)

Perfection

Some people fight against shame by striving for

perfection as a way to compensate for an underlying sense of defectiveness. The reasoning goes like this: “If I can become perfect, I am no

longer vulnerable to being shamed.” Unfortunately, the quest for perfection is doomed to fail, and the realization of this failure reawakens the

already present sense of shame the person was trying to run from in the

first place. Because he already feels that he is inherently not good

enough as a person, nothing he does is ever seen as good enough

If you expect perfection from yourself, you will be constantly disappointed in yourself and constantly damaging your self-esteem. If

you expect perfection from others, you will end up being demanding

and critical. If you do this with your children, you will be emotionally

abusing them.

Culled from Healing your emotional self by Beverly Engel

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