Rage(Healing your emotional self)

Rage

Rage occurs spontaneously and naturally following shame. It serves a

vital self-protective function by insulating the self against further

exposure and by actively keeping others away to avoid further occurrences of shame. Extroverted children are more likely to express rage

at being shamed, while introverted children often tend to keep their

rage inside, more hidden from the view of others.

As Gershen Kaufman explains in The Power of Caring: “If rage

emerges as a strategy of defense, what we will see is an individual who

holds onto rage as a characterological style. This manifests itself either

in hostility towards others or bitterness. Although this hostility or bitterness arises as a defense to protect the self against further experiences of shame, it becomes disconnected from its originating source

and becomes a generalized reaction directed toward almost anyone

who may approach.”

Culled from Healing your emotional self by Beverly Engel

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