Shame
Many survivors of emotional abuse and neglect
feel a lot of shame about themselves and their bodies. The inner experience of shame is to feel seen or perceived by others in a painfully
diminished way. The self feels exposed and it is this sudden, unexpected feeling of exposure and accompanying self-consciousness that
characterizes the essential nature of shame. Shame also causes an
overwhelming belief that one is fundamentally deficient in some vital
way as a human being. To live with shame is to feel alienated and
defeated. It is to believe you are never quite good enough.
Anger pushes away shame.
Anger itself is not a negative emotion. It is what we do with our
anger that determines whether it is negative or positive. If we go
about spewing out our anger on innocent people, it becomes negative.
If we hold anger in and turn it against ourselves, it also becomes negative. But if we find constructive ways of releasing it and safe places to
let out our anger, it becomes a positive force in our lives, creating
energy, motivation, assertiveness, empowerment, and creativity.
Culled from Healing your emotional self by Beverly Engel
Abdulkareem,Taoheedah kehinde
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