Our paradigms (also called by other approaches narratives, scripts, schemas, mind-sets, and life traps) have a great deal to do with creating the reality we experience. Because they are resistant to change, they become self-fulfilling prophecies. As we get older, we stick with friends who support our assumptions,and let others drop by the wayside. Our friends will generally share our views about politics, religion, sports teams, and the other people in town. We’ll try to find work that doesn’t challenge our expectations of life.
If our self-destructive behavior is drinking too much, intellectual laziness, overeating, wasting time, or neglecting our health, we’re not likely to keep friends who challenge us on these issues. If we gamble, or use drugs, or are into sex addiction, we’ll find people who will encourage us. If our family or loved ones keep after us on these behaviors, we’ll avoid them, tune them out, or find a way to make them shut up or give up. So we find ways to help us literally not see the consequences of our self-destructive behavior.
Culled from Rewire by Richard O'connor
Abdulkareem, Taoheedah Kehinde
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