Anger tends to blot out feelings of love in both the person who is expressing the anger and the person who is the object of it. Love does not flourish amid anger.
Love flowers within emotional safety and security. When we stop using anger as a way of getting what we want, we will find much better ways to achieve our goals through reason, sound ethics, and love.
Expect that you will go through emotional withdrawal after deciding to stop expressing anger in ways that hurt, manipulate, or frighten other people. When you stop yourself from expressing or acting on anger, you may discover that enormous guilt feelings have been fueling your anger. You may feel anxious and insecure when you can no longer blast people with anger. Most likely, you will discover you have been feeling considerable humiliation beneath the anger.
Culled from Guilt, Anxiety, and Shame by Peter R. Breggin
Abdulkareem,Taoheedah Kehinde
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