Relationship is in our DNA. Each of us is born with an irresistible desire to relate to other human beings. By the time we are two or three, our brains have grown twice as large, much of it in response to the people around us, making us inseparable from each other. We are made of each other. Both physically and emotionally, we can and do complete and inspire each other's lives.
Yet willfulness and violence are also in our DNA. Each of us is born with impulses to inflict devastating harm upon other creatures and other people,including our family members. Both physically and emotionally, we can and do tear each other apart.
We are potentially the most loving and the most violent creatures on Earth.Given our passion for physical and emotional intimacy, and given our tendency to react to each other with willful aggression, nature faced a daunting task: how to keep us from destroying each other within our families.
No other social creature is as violent as we are. No other violent creature is as social as we are. This innate and seemingly impossible conflict continues to affect the lives of every one of us.
Culled from Guilt, Anxiety and Shame by Peter R. Breggin
Abdulkareem,Taoheedah Kehinde
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